Sex & Sensuality

Sex and Sensuality Offerings

After spending 8 years in front of and behind the camera in the adult film industry, as well as being a life-long sexual being, Lee Harrington has come to the realization that there are more flavors of sex, sensuality, and desire than can be summed up in any one vision of what is “right.” Thus, he has chosen to talk about sex- what we do, why we do it, how to do it with excellence, and how to have our connections in these worlds fulfill our actual desires instead of what we “should” want. The following classes are specifically sex and/or sensuality related, however all of Lee’s work is in the goal of making you more authentically you- and through it, helping you have a more fulfilling sexual and sensual life.

FTM CBT: Genital Torment for Queer Bodies

Lecture with Demo, usually co-taught with Wintersong Tashlin
Let’s admit it- doing genital torment on transguys is different than doing it on other bodies. In some ways we get the best of all worlds- so let’s talk about our desires to torment, tease, punish and pamper our amazing flesh. After discussing the varieties of genitals out there to play with (and what we call them) in this category and how our hormones and modifications (or having had neither) have affected our CBT and sex, we will demonstrate and discuss a wide variety of torment options. Abrasion, piercing, bondage, clamps, caning… plus more advanced concepts like playing with trans genital humiliation will all be up for grabs. Add some dirty talking and negotiation skills into the mix- and watch us squirm!

Harnessing Courage: Walking Your Path of Erotic Authenticity

Spoken Word Participatory Lecture
We each embrace a wide variety of sexual, gender, identity and relationship labels and roles in our life- some that we are handed at birth as expectations from family or society, and others that we acquire or have grow on us. But do we serve our roles, or do our roles serve us? Let us take an enLIGHTening walk through the stories our labels tell about us, how we interpret the stories of our lives, and then set it aside as we truly explore what makes you… YOU. By challenging ourselves to be real with ourselves, we will build the roots of living an erotically courageous life, full of the power that understanding our myriad facades grants us (and when to take those masks off). Instead of looking at what doesn’t work, or who we aren’t – let us work together to build an internal and external vocabulary of what works for us, setting one foot in front of another on your OWN Path of Erotic Authenticity. Be challenged to laugh, smile, put on our thinking caps, open up a bit about our own paths, and start chewing on our truths, perceived truths, wants, and true core needs.

Laughing Our Way to Intimacy: Humor and Sex

Participatory Lecture
We’ve each had those moments — when the vibrator goes flying or the stereo goes off with just the wrong song, and suddenly sex has turned into hilarity. But looking beyond the accidents that make for funny stories later, how can we incorporate humor and comedy to purposefully add spice, connection, intimacy or variety to our bedroom (and other) erotic adventures? Exploring the different schools of comedy from absurdity and slapstick to satire, black comedy and dry observation, we will see how each can be included in our sexual escapades. Whether you are using humor to try something new, push a boundary, look back on past pain, or simply PLAY — this class is for you.

Lets Talk About Sex: Frank Discussions around the Realities of our Desires

Discussion Based Class (No Late Entry)
So here’s the truth- no one has the same type of sexual interactions or erotic expression as anyone else. Some people want to be penetrated, others eschew the idea. Some of us want to be touched certain ways, others don’t. Just because you’re gay doesn’t mean you enjoy anal play, just because you’re a lesbian doesn’t mean you like having your pussy licked. Every one of us is different. So let’s talk about it! In this discussion based class we will talk about what the hell sex is to us, what we call the stuff between our legs, and what we like to do with it when no one else is watching. Can it be touched? How can it be touched, and what are your thoughts around your body in general? What is safer sex, and do you actually do it when the passion is turned up to ten? How do you discuss this stuff with your partners, or do you expect psychic awareness or fumbling in the dark? Do you cum, how do you cum, and does it matter? Let’s air our dirty laundry and talk openly, honestly, and passionately about sex!

Open Hearts, Open Minds: Exploring “Alternative” Relationship Structures

Participatory Lecture
Modern romance dictates that a single individual should fulfill all of our needs- from sharing joys and fears, co-parenting and financial commitments to sexual happiness, identity confirmation and spiritual fulfillment. Is this fair? We will look into what relationships give us, then explore a wide variety of relationship structures that are being employed to have people fill all of their needs. Monogamy and serial monogamy are valid options, but what about polyamory, swinging, pre-arranged trysts, friends with benefits, and more? How do we communicate in our relationships to make whatever structure we choose actually work, and of course we’ll plunge into issues like jealousy vs. envy, new relationship energy, and making each of our friends and partners feel like the unique person they are in our lives.

Playing Between The Ears: Erotic Hypnosis, Trance and Dirty Talk

Participatory Lecture
Close your eyes and relax, or get yourself all wound up, it´s time to delve into the most powerful sex organ we have to play with- the brain! From formal induction hypnosis concepts to how to just use the perfect words to spice up your sex life, we will be discussing and exploring some practical skills on creating guided visualizations, intensifying role play, building command words, self-hypnosis, and much more. As well as the fun and flirty stuff, we will also look at the legal and ethical ramifications of these sorts of play, horror stories, myths about trance states… and see what mysteries we can uncover between our ears.

Reclaiming our Pleasure Rights: Sexuality, Psychology, and Ecstasy for individuals outside the gender binary and their lovers

Discussion Based Class
Let’s skip to the meat of the matter: we want sex, we have sex, and we deserve sex. But how can we reclaim our pleasure rights when we won’t even talk about it with our friends and lovers? In this class we will dive into the fears we have around rejection and body dysphoria, then put that all on a shelf for a few minutes to dive into what actually WORKS! How does humor and joy play into our pursuit of pleasure? What issues face trans folks or others who are outside the binary who have male partners, female partners, trans partners, and hell, what do you call the stuff between your legs anyway? Does it matter? We’ll touch on the issues of safer sex as well, in a community where our desperation to be touched the way we need to be touched has led to a heartbreaking habit of doing anything to get our needs met.

Rope Sex: Bondage For Lovemaking and More

Hands On
Rope bondage is a wonderful tool for spicing up your sex life- from binding legs open for access to the loins to turning a bed into somewhere a lover can’t escape from, giving into their desires. We will learn how to make simple restraints for spread-eagle poses or binding lovers to chairs, as well as exploring ways to bind limb to limb, body to body, crotch ropes (and how to convert them into pieces that can be fucked through), and more. Let’s explore and think creatively about techniques for adding bondage to your style of sensuality and sex. Bring at least one 25-30ft piece of rope, and a dildo if you have one, for hands-on play, though limited supplies will be available to borrow from the instructor.

Sacred Consort: Connecting with your Divine Lover

Learning Ritual (No Late Entry)
On the other side of the veil your holy beloved waits. Join this circle and sensual guided meditation out of our mundane world and into the land of our spirit, where our companion awaits us. Some of us will connect to the flame at the heart of the universe, beating in union with our souls and loins. Others will open up to find a specific spirit, deity or being who has been hoping to court us as a one time liaison or as a partner along our life’s journey. Or we may find a reflection of ourselves longing to embrace our own hedonistic worship and desire. Bring a towel, and perhaps a pillow, sex toys, blindfolds or other tools you are called to bring as well. Gloves, lube, and other safer solo-sex supplies will be available as well, though physical auto erotic stimulation and/or nudity are not required for participation. Please arrive on time as there will be no late entry allowed.

Safer Magical Sex and Erotic Energy Exchanges

Participatory Lecture
How do we protect ourselves energetically and physically during acts and explorations of using our bodies, will and desire? From masturbation to bdsm and all manifestations in-between, we will discuss how to use our erotic props (safer sex supplies, sex toys, fetish items and bdsm gear) for magical shielding, extensions of our astral body, and energetic empowerment. Join us as we discuss body fluids and prana, how to choose what parts of ourselves intermingle with our partners, dedication or cleansing/grounding of our erotic props, energy ethics, sacred spaces, and the why behind some of these interactions.

Sex Magic Workers and Magical Sex Practitioners

Discussion Based Class
Many of us use the tools of sex magic, or are magical sex practitioners- be they spirit workers, ceremonial magicians, shamans, sacred whores, god spouses, or those dedicating their sex lives to the divine. If you are currently a sex worker doing magical work, a magical worker using sex as a tool, or something else that might apply- join us for a discussion of our ethics, magical practices, safer sex, networking, temple work, designing rituals, the difference between sex magic and magical sex. We will share war stories, and troubleshoot with one another about our challenges as erotic and magical peers.

Switching Strategies: Fulfilling your Needs and more

Participatory Lecture
The term “switch” has a lot of baggage attached in a polar BDSM community, where you are expected to be a Top or a bottom, a Master or a slave- but there are a thousand reasons why many of us feel a calling to cross over from time to time- while others are born to ride both sides of their souls. We will be addressing why people switch (Tops who want to know what it feels like, slaves who want to serve masochistic Masters, greedy pigs who want it all), strategies to finding play partners or relationship structures (one partner many roles, play partners outside of monogamous relationships, polyamory, swinging, open relationships, self-play), and create ways to check in with ourselves about what our own needs are. When desires are left unfulfilled, it can lead to resentment, break downs in communication, and anger- but how do we find ways to fill our needs when we are ashamed of them, our partners are turned off by them, or we’re just to shy to ask?

What Labels Give Us, What Labels Take Away: The Power of Gender and Sexual Identity Labels

Participatory Lecture
Before many of us were born, we were given gender labels that set our life course in motion. In this discussion and personally explorative class, we will dive into looking at a variety of questions: What labels have you been gifted, inherited, chosen, been forced into, or run away from? How does your internal identity for yourself affect your outside identity and your interpretation of gender and sexual roles you play or fill? What power do your labels grant you for flirting, community exposure, personal interactions, group dynamics, and more? What do you loose by stating a specific label or expressing it physically at first meeting another individual? How are these labels all formed, and why don’t we just scrap them all? Labels can get us hot, labels can turn us off, labels drive us mad, and labels give us hope for claiming our own sense of self. Let’s challenge ourselves, look deep inside, then examine how it all affects the current communities we each play a part in.

You’re Hot when You’re You

Participatory Lecture co-taught with Nina Hartley
We’ve all been told on some level that what we are, who we are, or what we want is not normal. Is strange. Isn’t acceptable. Is wrong. We’re all broken, so what? Or more importantly, now what? Join Nina and Lee as they explore their journeys of gender, presentation, Dominance and submission, sexuality and more that never had a box to fit into in the first place. From self examination to self acceptance to self celebration, lets look into what makes each of us truly sexy, truly hot, truly authentic… finding ourselves amidst the messages from our communities and beyond.